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May I Be Kinky

“Bondage By Nature” by Ellie Van den Brande

May I Be Kinky. May as in this month. 😛 Courtesy of Atticus, he came up with the pun when I told him about my busy kinky plans for May. So this is going to be more like a short kinky life update. 😛

In short, there are going to be two munches, two parties, and an afternoon date event for kinky singles looking to mingle. Attending my first munch a few months ago was definitely one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I love the community here in my little country, I love the great people in the scene. And I feel so honored to be part of the community. Took me long enough to join, now that I’m in, I don’t see myself going anywhere.

So basically, the next four weekends all pack some kinky fun. I might be meeting with a potential sub who enjoys the bruising kind of pain who is eager to taste the cane. I will talk about it more if and when it actually comes to fruition and not now, I don’t want to jinx it. I do feel like talking about me topping, cos I haven’t thought about doing that before but I’ve had a change of heart, maybe, due to a conversation I had at a munch.

Which brings me to the next update. I want to start a new blog post series called ‘Munch For Thought’. I get to meet many smart and fascinating people and sometimes the convos go quite deep and even philosophical. Above all, they make me think about my kink and my roles. Mingling with other kinky people, their ideas and thoughts are bound to affect me on my kinky journey, and I welcome all kinds of changes. I used to see myself quite straight-forward, about what I want and what I like when it comes to kink and I did have very strong opinions about things. But like everything in life, only change is constant. And I might be stubborn and have strong points of view, well, until someone or something comes along and change my mind. And I always welcome change, it can be painful but it also can be very beautiful and what life is all about. I will leave all the deep stuff for later, I think Sundays might be a good day for ‘Munch For Thought’ posts since they might not be too long and they are more emo and less practical than posts on Kinky Wednesdays. I swear I’m doing all I can to get this little blog back on track. While still trying to attend all the kinky events. While still desperately fighting to read that 50 books this year. While still trying to get in great shape. I’m happier when I keep busy. 🙂

Let me know in the comments whether you would be interested to read about me at those parties and date event. 😛 Well, I might still write about them anyway. Until then, stay kinky! 😉

Random Ramblings

Blog Shout-Out – Slap & Tickle

Few weeks ago I introduced the lovely Gigi, her insights about being owned and collared and her new blog about sex and kink – Slap & Tickle. In collaboration, she interviewed me for her blog and here’s a little sneak peek:

“Submissiveness is the biggest part of my sexuality, and sex has a really big role in my life, or else I wouldn’t have suffered through vanilla sex for so many years. I’ve described my submissiveness as a breathing break. I feel like I’ve been under water all my life, and only when I get to submit, I can fully breathe. At my first session, it felt like I’ve been eating TV-dinners all my life and for the first time, I got to eat a gourmet meal. The submissive state is my safe haven, where I can be myself 100%.”

That was my answer for just one of the ten questions, go to her blog to read the rest! 🙂 I might be a little biased, but I do think writing about sex and kink is important, and also very fun too. Do swing by her blog and show her some love. ❤

Is That a Thing? · Kinky Dungeon

Is That A Thing? – Anal Hooks

Aaaand we’re back with the naughty stuff! This time, it’s all about the little metal hook. I have to admit, if nothing else, anal hooks enable some pretty stunning photos. They actually remind me of a Dom I’ve chatted with a long time ago, back when I was still looking for Doms. He was really into anal hooks, and it might be just that that made me a wee bit hesitant to meet up with him in person, because I used to hate anything anal. But then again, it’s also timing, because twice when he was like ‘let’s meet up’, I was already involved with another Dom.

So anal hooks, after I no longer hate anal, I do have to wonder what took me so long to venture into actually trying it. I remember, not long ago, when Sir Atticus presented his new toy to me, a simply one ball anal hook, I felt a tinge of excitement mixed with fear. Because anal hooks always involve some pretty intense looking bondage. And I was a little worried that my long hair would be too slippery for tying up. Some time passed and I managed to forget all about the hook, until one nice evening when I found myself tied up standing on my tippy toes, my wrists tied up leather cuffs to the ceiling hook, when Sir whispered the words all subbies would always equally love and dread to hear at the same time: “Oh, I got an idea.” Especially when you are a little tied up.

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