Few months ago I wrote about one of my not so pleasant sexadventures in a post, where I also mentioned about the importance of scents are to me. I guess it had something to do with my primal side, actually I’ve always been very sensitive to scent. But only lately I’ve put more attention to it and I guess finally decide to trust it more. And when I talk about the scent, I mean everyone’s natural scent. Some have it strong, some weaker, like Asians mostly have a very weak natural scent. Sometimes I don’t have an opinion of their scent, sometimes I could hardly stand it and those people I would end up disliking. And going back in time thinking about all those I’ve had brilliant sexual chemistry with and the sex had been very good, I adored all of their scents.
The first that come to mind is my second Dom Sir Sade. His natural scent is very very strong, and it was absolutely intoxicating. It was musky and his whole apartment would smell like him and it would drive me crazy. My last Dom Atticus also had a scent that I loved. His is sweet, slightly smoky, and somehow comforting. Like a vanilla cigar.
But then I met Elio and his scent is also very strong but in a more subtle way. Not everyone can smell it. And I found out that his base scent is my favorite. I seem to be attracted to people who looks a lot like Elio appearance-wise – tall and slim. And peculiarly they all have the same kind of base scent. It’s the smell of skin when it had been under the sun for a while. The smell of sunlight. And then everyone would have an additional scent to that. Except Elio is all sunlight. π I’ve had a short thing with a guy who smells like sunlight and sea salt.
And then Oliver. I really love his scent too. It’s sunlight and something incredibly sweet, I can’t put my finger on it. Something warm and sweet, salty caramel maybe? I like to tease him that he smells like what I imagine babies’ heads smell like. XD I first caught it full force was when I entered his car the first time. I thought he was using some car scent that’s surprisingly pleasant. It took me a while to realize that it’s actually his own scent. And it is pretty unique too, and very easily separated from others. And even his sweat smells the same, just stronger and has a salty undertone. And because of his nature, sweet and warm, I’ve come to associate his scent with safety and comfort, it would also calm me down. That’s why I’ve even asked him whether he would like to be present whenever I meet someone I would like to be tied up by. I am incredibly nervous about being tied up by someone else but him, but I think if I am at least able to smell him, I would not panic or feel uncomfortable.
On the flip side, if I can’t stand the scent of someone, I would end up strongly disliking them. I can think of two girls I’ve met in the kinky community. Both have a very sweet scent, like too sweet, like fruit that is too ripe. But since I try to be friendly, I would sometimes end up hugging them hello at events. And then for the rest of the night, I would smell them on me until I go home to wash my whole body and hair and all of my clothes. Their scents would sometimes give me a headache too.
I also have strong flashbacks of memories from certain scents. Like the part of the city I live in, it sometimes would smell like my hometown in China, and it would bring back memories from my childhood and I can almost feel it in my bones. Scents play a big part in my memory bank.
So why is one’s scent so important to me? I don’t exactly have an answer. I just know that I’ve never had mind-blowing sex with anyone whose scent I don’t love. And recently, especially after the last bad sexperience, I really should learn to trust my instincts more and trust the scent. At least for now, it had never led me astray. I do believe it has something to do with physical compatibility. Might also be pheromones. Oh! And also, their sperm tastes better, those with great scents. π
I’m actually pretty eager to meet new people now that I’m completely aware of the importance of natural scents. I would definitely rely on it more to do some of the judgment. And let’s see if it actually works! Whether good scent really equals good sex. π I’ll let you guys know when I’ve collected more data. Until then, stay kinky! π