It has been 1.5 years since I wrote the previous part about my sadism. And oh the number of people I’ve spanked at that time. 😀 I’ve sprinkled those stories here and there so you have to explore a bit if you want to read them. I might have to make a site map at some point. But here today, I want to talk about one specific sadistic experience I had recently.
I met this young guy at a kinky newcomers’ evening, he was extremely shy and didn’t talk much. We got to chatting a bit and I came to find out that he thinks he is submissive. He does want me to deal out some pain via spanking. We went to grab a coffee and I found out more just how shy he is. More than shy, he has severe social anxiety and he has a hard time to look me in the eyes and sometimes it takes quite a long time for him to reply. But we did agree on a session.
I had no idea what is going to happen on the session day. Since he has no experience whatsoever, I wasn’t sure what I even get to do. He requested pain, but he seems to have this slightly twisted idea of why a woman would want to hurt him. I made it clear to him that my desire to hurt people does not come from a place of hatred or anger. I really care about the people I play with. If I don’t like someone, and thus couldn’t care less about their well-being, I don’t find it enjoyable at all to hurt. I need to care about them first. I think he somehow had a hard time understanding my meaning, but I also think that he finally got it after the spanking.
Back to the session. It was intense. There is no other way to describe it. I had him tied from his wrists to my ceiling hook, stripped naked. But for some weirdest reason, that was the point he decided to stop obeying. Since my apartment is not that big, I sometimes have to turn the people hanging on my hook to get a better angle for myself to spank. But he wouldn’t budge. It was quickly becoming apparent that this was turning into a punishment. And didn’t that thought got my sadistic blood pumping.
It was a struggle. For him, not me. He wasn’t bratty, what he did was more than being bratty. It was flat out disobedience. And no matter how much pain I dealt on him, he wouldn’t obey. I had never got such a rush, nothing gets my sadist out than a disobeying sub. When he wouldn’t turn his back to me, I would switch to a whip made from a thin cable to get to his back no matter which way he faces. I covered his eyes so he wouldn’t see where I am and where the whip is coming from. I was going to start nice and slow, but that plan went out of the window pretty fast. I noticed his voice changing. He talks in this quiet shy voice, like he is afraid to speak with this real voice. But what I got out of him through pain was a loud and strong voice. He would roar at me, yell profanities, his whole body would shake from the adrenalin coursing through him from the extreme pain. I started to feel that he wanted me to get angry. He clearly had no idea how sadism work. Well, at least my sadism.
Cos not once did I lose my temper. I wasn’t even tempted. I’m not sure if he was aware, that every time he disobeys me, he is giving me a pure rush of sadism. There is always a certain amount of guilt when I inflict pain for others whenever it’s not a punishment. Like eating a donut. I love donuts, I know I’ve been good and eating well so I can ‘afford’ a donut but still, I would feel guilty. Punishments are like guilt-free donuts. He is giving me guilt-free donuts. The funny thing is, I saw it in his eyes many times during the session, he wanted to obey. Especially the direct commands. There is a submissive inside of him. But for some reason, he was steadfast of not submitting. He wanted me to force him, literally by force, to submit. But that’s not really my style. And I don’t think that’s even how submission works, at least not for me. Me fighting against submission when I want to, well I’m not sure that’s even possible. I would safeword out.
Anyways, I stopped at the point when his whole backside and half of his frontside were covered in bruises. Heavy heavy bruises. The kind that if I spank any more, his skin would break. His limit wasn’t skin breakage but he tapped out when I started to squeeze his buttcheeks that were swollen and bruised up. The squeezing is something that would break me easily, so I completely understand how he couldn’t stand it almost at all.
Afterward, I had a long chat with him. I confessed to him that I wasn’t sure if I like the disobedient attitude he seemed to be forcing on himself. However fun it was to punish him. I let him know that I cared about his well-being a lot, and I think he believed it then, by how many times I checked whether his hands were getting cold or numb. Or how I stopped his arms from coming down too quickly from the bindings cos I know how much it hurts when the blood rushes back to your limbs. I think he didn’t expect me to care, he was actually touched by it.
After the session, I made sure to check on him for a few days and about a week after. I was left with a positive feeling about it. I guess I surprised at myself, this session was as close as I had ever got to be the dominant one. I was surprised how natural it felt, or how much I like be in charge. I wasn’t aroused though, it was something else entirely. I was attracted to him a little bit but when I was in that top space, I wasn’t really thinking about sex at all. This is still all very new to me. And I’m not sure whether I would get to experience it again. I would have to think about that and I shall let you know. Until then, stay kinky! 😉