I wrote a little cheeky list of different types of orgasms I usually get back in 2016 in part 1 and then my struggles and how I seem to slowly start to overcome them in 2019 in part 2. After I wrote that I still had problems with cumming with other people and I still had that little talk with every new partner about how I don’t orgasm easily and ask them not to take it personally. I estimated that I cum maybe 10% of the time and that remained true until I met Steve.
Before I go more in depth into that, I feel like I should explain what happened between my last post about orgasms and me meeting Steve. Back in mid-2019, I was still having a friends with benefits relationship with Oliver and that lasted until mid-2020 aka when the pandemic was going hot. I did cum from time to time with Oliver but it wasn’t consistent at all and in no shape or form a guaranteed thing. During that year with Oliver, I did have other random partners and now in retrospect, it was surprising that I did manage to orgasm with new partners even during the first time. But there would always be a gimmick or something. Like being with a woman that I had a giant crush with and she fucked harder than most men I’ve been with. 😀 And with a guy who had a Prince Albert piercing in his penis and goddamn it felt amazing. And even with Oliver, there had to be something extra like bondage or anal etc in order for me to cum. So I was quite serene with my state. I knew my body was capable of orgasming with other people too, I just needed a little bit extra oomph to it. I was just happy that I could do it, after everything.
So after our partnership ended with Oliver, I didn’t have a long-term partner for a long time. Here and there was some action but when the end of 2020 hit, I was just exhausted trying to find a new steady partner in the midst of a pandemic. I decided to take a break and I didn’t date anyone or even tried to for a whole year. I knew I could do it cos of my experience with one year of voluntary celibacy back in 2018. It was actually quite nice, to not to have to think about it. I didn’t even masturbate much. I just went with how I felt and I felt zen. Turned out I was extremely good at being by myself. I guess for the first time in my life, I didn’t think about sex or orgasms on a regular basis for an extended period of time. And in addition to that, I wasn’t worried that I didn’t think about it. And maybe that helped my body re-center itself with its relationship with sex and orgasms. I am not saying it was all me. XD Not at all. I’ve 100% sure I wouldn’t be where I am now if my next steady play partner is anyone else but Steve. 😀 All the orgasm stars were lining up for it to happen.
So in November 2021, I was ready to get back out there. I started a friends with benefits relationship with Steve whom I’ve known through a mutual friend but didn’t exactly stay in contact with for five years. But there was some connection there so it was relatively easy to jump into things – I felt like I already knew him. And that layer of intimacy during sex even from the first time we had sex, I figured it must be because I was capable of being quite vulnerable in front of him. I felt a strong sense of kinship with him cos I felt like he was very similar to me and that I can tell him anything about myself and I would never face judgment from him. And that type of mental nakedness must have transferred to the physical realm cos it literally took us several times of having sex, and I was surprised with me orgasming. Without any gimmicks. It was just regular sex. I have to admit that our bodies and especially the naughty parts couldn’t be more compatible and he could hit various points of sensitive flesh without even trying.
Fast-forward a few months, we meet roughly 1-3 times a week depending on our mutual schedules, and I can safely say that I’m badly spoiled. After that first time of me cumming, it just kept happening. Every time we have sex. Sometimes multiple orgasms. In every position – even standing up or me on top. And all kinds of orgasms – vaginal, clitoral, anal and g-spot ones with fingering. And the kicker is, I don’t have to work for it. They just come by themselves. There are really no words to describe how freeing it all feels. I could never believe that I could be that girl who is basically guaranteed to orgasm during sex. Maybe the gimmick here is that I have a giant crush on him, or maybe it’s cos we are anatomically and physically compatible. Or maybe, the gimmick is freedom from the stress of having to orgasm. We even had a mini marathon one day to test how many times we both could cum and it was over double digits for me. But that’s a story for another day. Until then, stay kinky! 😉