There is this free newspaper called City in Helsinki, Finland, it’s more about what’s in now and it likes to think about itself as a little risque. Yesterday, it published an article, written by a woman, the title is exactly the one that’s the title of this post. I didn’t expect anything new but I really did not expect it to be that… bad. So I decided to write a reaction piece to that. And since it’s pretty short, I translated it from Finnish (translation written in italic), and then put my two cents underneath them – tips from a kinky girl for better oral sex. Let’s go, pervs, let’s go have some fun!
1. It’s not mandatory
Remember, you don’t owe anyone anything. If your partner demands blowjobs, step on the break. Pressing matters shouldn’t be part of sex.
Well, of course not. But the title does say tips for having better oral sex. I don’t see how not giving head is the way to better oral sex. If giving blowjobs is wrong, I don’t want to be right. And for many of us who are into Dominant/submissive relationships, blowjobs and oral sex are one of the most common rewards a submissive gets from his/her Dom. It’s never a choir, it’s a privilege and truly a reward to get to be the one giving the pleasure for someone you really like. I’m not saying that all relationships need to be dominant and subservient, but don’t vanilla relationships also gain something by just doing a very pleasurable deed for something you really care about?
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As promised on last Wednesday’s How to Survive Down Time post, here’s a list of movies and TV shows that got me into a good mood after watching them. Stories that would make me cry, laugh and feeling cheerful and/or hopeful. There are movies from different genres, not just comedies but I guess all of them made me laugh and laugh and cry at the same time. I literally went through over 1 500 movies that I’ve watched to hand pick the following list of 30. I’m just going to write a couple of words about them, keeping it short and sweet since it is a pretty long list. I hope you enjoy. Okay, here we go.
1. Going in Style (2017)
It’s a simple movie with a simple plot but includes three charismatic actors to deliver some surprisingly funny scenes. Of course, they kept it classy. Kinda makes you miss your grandpa.
2. Paul (2011)
Paul is the ET for me as ET was for most people. I didn’t like ET, but I very much liked Paul. 😛
3. A Dog’s Purpose (2017)
It’s really a nice thought that dogs get to reincarnate from life to life to brighten different people’s lives. Hilarious narration with cheesy tear-jerker moments for all dog-lovers out there.
4. Captain Fantastic (2016)
Weirdly satisfying and fill you up with wonder about living off the grid. Not that I would ever be able to unless I was raised by a dad like Captain Fantastic.
5. Swiss Army Man (2016)
There’s a reason why the indie movie circle periodically delivers us gems because I can’t imagine any big movie studio giving this crazy idea a go. Thank God for indie flicks, Swiss Army Man will be one of the best movies you’ve ever seen. I wrote a mini review about it earlier, read more here.
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I’ve written about sub drops before. It’s this depression-like state that’s basically an endorphin crash that might occur after a particularly rough session. If you are interested in that topic, I’ve actually written a little survival guide about sub drops, you can read it here. But today I’m here to talk about the down time, when submission is on a break, at least the physical kind. An observant reader of this blog might have noticed that there had been less writings on kinky Wednesdays lately. Of course, I’ve been busy with restaurant work and such to have any mood to write anything, but it has been going on longer than that. I believe these so-called down time are not unusual with 24/7 D/s relationships. Reasons can be many, in my case it’s Sir Atticus having job related things on His mind or otherwise just not in the mood. One of the challenges of a D/s relationship is that one has to be in a certain headspace to commit, especially the one in the dominating role. A distracted Dominant is just bad news. I guess it’s equally possible for submissives to have off periods when submission doesn’t come naturally, work stress being one of them. Personally I have such a special relationship with submission that I can’t really see myself ever not be in the mood mentally. Physically sure, when I’m having a migraine or a high fever. I’m not the kind to stress about work, I might dread it but not stress about it that much. And when it comes to stress releasing, nothing quite beats a good spanking. 😛 In other words, for me submission is a cure for almost anything.
So, what are the symptoms of the down time? I would get restless, irritated at everything and everyone, lazy, bratty, mood-swingy, self-conscious, self-doubting, paranoid… just overall a shittier version of my usual self. I strongly dislike myself when I get like that, like today was such a day that those symptoms bugged the hell out of me. I decided to build a system to fight those negative symptoms because I’m all for constant self-development. 😛 And I hope it would be helpful for my fellow subbies too, and why not my other readers who get those same ‘symptoms’ from entirely different reasons. The big theme here is distraction. Here’s my top 10 how to survive down time:
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