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Submission on a Break – How to Survive the Down Time

Kuvahaun tulos haulle lazy catI’ve written about sub drops before. It’s this depression-like state that’s basically an endorphin crash that might occur after a particularly rough session. If you are interested in that topic, I’ve actually written a little survival guide about sub drops, you can read it here. But today I’m here to talk about the down time, when submission is on a break, at least the physical kind. An observant reader of this blog might have noticed that there had been less writings on kinky Wednesdays lately. Of course, I’ve been busy with restaurant work and such to have any mood to write anything, but it has been going on longer than that. I believe these so-called down time are not unusual with 24/7 D/s relationships. Reasons can be many, in my case it’s Sir Atticus having job related things on His mind or otherwise just not in the mood. One of the challenges of a D/s relationship is that one has to be in a certain headspace to commit, especially the one in the dominating role. A distracted Dominant is just bad news. I guess it’s equally possible for submissives to have off periods when submission doesn’t come naturally, work stress being one of them. Personally I have such a special relationship with submission that I can’t really see myself ever not be in the mood mentally. Physically sure, when I’m having a migraine or a high fever. I’m not the kind to stress about work, I might dread it but not stress about it that much. And when it comes to stress releasing, nothing quite beats a good spanking. 😛 In other words, for me submission is a cure for almost anything.

So, what are the symptoms of the down time? I would get restless, irritated at Aiheeseen liittyvä kuvaeverything and everyone, lazy, bratty, mood-swingy, self-conscious, self-doubting, paranoid… just overall a shittier version of my usual self. I strongly dislike myself when I get like that, like today was such a day that those symptoms bugged the hell out of me. I decided to build a system to fight those negative symptoms because I’m all for constant self-development. 😛 And I hope it would be helpful for my fellow subbies too, and why not my other readers who get those same ‘symptoms’ from entirely different reasons.  The big theme here is distraction. Here’s my top 10 how to survive down time:

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More more more! – Thoughts about sex addiction and kink

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First post about naughty stuff in ages! Sorry about that. 😛 And this is going to be a bit of a rambling too. It’s the TV show Shameless I’ve been watching and in it there was this male character who is a self-proclaimed sex addict. He’s been attending meetings and on his way to being ‘healed’ and restricts himself only to sex with one woman whom he loves and only in the missionary position while listening to Seal’s ‘Kiss From the Rose’. When being questioned about his very singular taste in sex, he revealed that sex is like a monster to him, if he chooses to release the monster, he can only get satisfaction from sex acts more on the extreme side, and it would only get more and more extreme cos so-called normal sex wouldn’t cut it anymore.

And that kinda got me thinking. During the early phase of my BDSM journey, when I was still one foot on the vanilla side and one foot on the dark side, I’ve encountered men who simply refuse to experiment the kinkier stuff like bare hand spanking or choking. I’m not sure whether it’s true or not, but the reason they gave me was that they were afraid that their appetite would only get darker and darker and it might get to a stage where nothing short of a hardcore SM stuff would suffice. I’ve also been asked whether I’m afraid that that’s happening to me eventually. Personally, I am not even worried, and I will attempt to explain why not in this post.

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Thank You Thursday Special

Today, we are to celebrate Thank You Thursday, and as all the submissives out there should acknowledge, being a Dominant or Master can sometimes be a thankless duty. All those responsibilities, all the brattiness and tantrums to suffer through, so many things to consider just to keep their subbies happy. So to kinda combine Kinky Wednesday and today’s post, I want to make a little list of things to thank my beloved Dominant, Sir Atticus.

Thank You, Sir, for all the scratches and kisses on my head, and hugs and ‘Come here’s. Your kitten might seem distracted sometimes or just over-excited to see you to appear properly appreciative of all the attention given to her, but make no mistakes, above mentioned actions always make kitten’s heart flutter and get tingly all over. ❤

Thank You, Sir for being semi-patient with your talking cat aka me. As all pet owners would understand, their pet simply drive them crazy all the time.

Thank You, Sir for making an effort to make me feel more secure and at ease by making plans, although You are more of an ex tempore kind of person, while kitten would get anxious and restless without plans.

Thank You, Sir for keeping yourself available for all the closeness kitten wants and used to be too nervous to ask for it.

Thank You, Sir for always be ready to help, like with the moving and drilling holes to walls at the new kitten’s lair. 😛

Thank You, Sir, last but not least, for being You; whimsical, unpredictable, predictable, forgetful but really hard to be mad at, always ready to help, the nicest person in the world, cute especially when grumpy, delectably adorable, funny as hell and so very smart.

And in order to thank You, kitten will continue to try her best to adore you, make you laugh, take care of you whenever you let her, and help and support you in every way. ^^