I’ve written about orgasms before, in the part 1, go read it, it was super funny. I might have discussed my relationship with orgasms here and there but I guess I’ve never told the whole story in one post. Let’s talk about that today!
Nowadays, whenever I have a new partner, I have to have this little talk with them. “Listen… my relationship with orgasms is really complicated.” I’m not a fan of that convo, but I just want to let them know that it’s all me and what I like to called orgasmically handicap. Let me start from the very beginning.
I started masturbating really early, like before I even had my period or boobs. But no one taught me how, so for years and years till my late teens, I just rubbed my pussy against my blanket to get off. I lost my virginity when I was 15, but I’ve never, not once had an orgasm during vaginal intercourse until I was like… maybe 25 or something. Or 26. I never masturbated with my fingers, I never explored it. I know my own lady parts inside out cos I like to look at it a lot when I was younger, but I just didn’t like touching myself with my own fingers. With my first boyfriend, I got my first orgasms through him giving me oral. But they were like really weak and behind hard work. After my first boyfriend, I discovered vibrators and finally knew what a strong ass orgasm feels like. It took me quite a while, in other words.
Then came my exfiance. I got a couple of vaginal orgasms with him, I like to believe purely by accident. I used to get them when I was on top and kinda rubbing my clit against them. So I guess not purely vaginal Os. When our sex life quieted down, he became obsessed with me cumming. Probably because he thought that I would want to have sex with him more if I cummed every time. In the beginning, it was exciting. Fun even. Cos my exfiance was really freaking vanilla, but can’t say he didn’t have stamina though. He was very good at really steady humping, which to be honest, can be very good for female orgasms. Well for most girls I guess. So he and I combined fucking and vibrator a lot. But gradually it became harder and harder for me to cum. I didn’t know back then that it was because I wasn’t into vanilla sex. But anyways, he would just become more and more obsessed with getting me off. To a point that I resented it, resented him. Orgasms became hard as fuck to achieve.
So when he and I broke up, I swore to myself that I would never ever force myself to cum anymore. I told all my partners then never to force me. Even to my dominants back then. Then it became weird. With doms I mean. Cos suddenly I had to ask for permission to cum. It was fun in the beginning. Especially with my last Dom Atticus, it was all-consuming. I gave so much of myself and my sexuality to him that during some point, he could basically make me cum on command. But when we broke up, all of it went to shit.
For over four months after the break-up, I couldn’t even masturbate. I was literally incapable of cumming, scared shitless that I would have a mental breakdown over the fact that there was no one to ask for permission and I was miserable. It took me a whole year to finally be in more control of my own body, to take back my orgasms so-to-speak. And orgasms I get from masturbation had literally never been better than the ones I get nowadays.
But one problem still remains, it’s next to impossible for me to cum with others. It’s extremely hard to cum by masturbation in front of my partners, I’ve all but given up on the hope to cum during sex ever again. I mean sure, with a vibrator it can happen. It had happened a couple of times with Oliver. I just think that my body is simply not capable of it anymore because I have such a strong mental block now.
But then, something magical happened last session with Oliver. It was after being tied up and spanked. I was on my all fours with an anal hook up my ass and tied to my neck and hair. He had made me gag many times throat fucking me. He had also pulled a thick textured rope through the anal hook before and it felt like a strong vibrator against the anal plug. It drove me absolutely crazy with lust. I’m sure it was all of that, and also we haven’t played in a while so my body missed him. He then played with me some more with my vibrator, pressing, not just keeping it on my clit but moving it back and forth from the anal hook in my butt across my wet pussy to my clit and back. And the fact that the anal hook was pulling my hair rendering me almost immobile and in an extremely uncomfortable position and it felt like I couldn’t escape the sensory overload. And I fucking loved it all.
Then he started to fuck my pussy, pushing the anal hook even deeper in me and placing the vibrator against my sensitive clitoris. I really don’t have enough words to explain how good it felt, I couldn’t get enough how good his cock felt in my pussy. And all of a sudden, without any warning, like a bomb went off in my netherparts, without anyone yelling ‘incoming’. I exploded. My vision blurred, I couldn’t feel the tension and discomfort on my hair or neck or shoulders, my ears were ringing. I must have screamed cos my throat felt raw afterward. I still can’t believe that I cummed. And not just once. Actually I’m not sure. It was like waves. Every time I thought I was coming down, a new wave of orgasm would just hit me. I didn’t count how many, I didn’t have the brain capacity to even remember my own name. Or it might have been just one giant orgasm that lasted a small eternity.
It was unexpected to say the least. Oliver had no idea what he did to me. I told him of course, but I don’t think he understood just how insane it was. I want to call it my first primal orgasm. I didn’t have to force it, I didn’t have to ask for permission for it, I didn’t even have to think of anything at all. I didn’t even try to cum. That’s why it sneaked up on me, there was no climb at all. It was a grenade I didn’t see coming. It was all sensations, unaltered and unburdened with rules or reason. It was what orgasms should be, the most natural thing in the world. It gave me so much hope that maybe some day, I would be rid of all my mental blocks and just be ‘normal’ with orgasms. At least now I know that my body is capable of it. And I can’t be more grateful.