A couple of week’s ago at a monthly kinky, I did something quite special – I went in the role of a cat. On a collar and leash. With a cat sitter (Oliver). If you are new to my blog, that might not sound that special, albeit pretty kinky. But if you have been a long time reader, all of that might raise your eyebrow. I am not that big on pet play. But to my exDom, I was his kitten and I always felt safe in that role. After the break-up, the kitten in me died. I knew for a fact that I couldn’t ever be a kitten for anyone else. I never really quite mourned her passing, I had other things to worry about (or run away from). But since last year I truly started to go through the break-up like a grown-up, I started to miss my feline role. I was still sure that I can’t regain my kitten role ever again, but a thought pop into my mind – what if the kitten has grown up into a cat? A bratty cat that scratches and bites but also likes scratches and likes to be in the lap. The idea grew and grew and I decided that I wanted to do it. And as someone who tends to go a little extreme from time to time, I decided to go all the way.
I decided that I want to do it in public. Since I don’t panic when I am surrounded by lots of people. There was a very slight possibility that I would get bad flashbacks about my time as a kitten with my exDom, and in parties, I would less likely get panic attacks. Second, in addition to having a buttplug fluffy tail and cat-eye make-up, I was gonna go into the role more seriously and not talk at all. Which is very unlike me, cos I talk constantly. Third, I was going to be in a thick leather collar and a leash. I almost never wear collars even during play, cos collars use to be a big fucking deal for me. But just as my inner kitten, my exDom managed to ruin collars for me too. Ruin them in the sense that I probably can never take them seriously ever again. So I decided to be a good cat, and wear a collar and a leash. I recruited Oliver to be my cat sitter.
And here’s what I discovered: I really really love being in the role of a cat. I have my subspace when submitting, the sadist state when I’m hurting others, the top space and the masochist state. What I didn’t expect was to have a unique state of mind as a feline. I felt confident yet vulnerable at the same time, playful and bratty. Most surprising thing was I had a much easier time to just beg for intimacy from people I know. I loved getting scratches and pets and strokes on my hair. I love getting hugs and being held and lounged on people’s laps or rest my head on their thighs. Aka things that I probably wouldn’t know how to ask for when I’m being myself.
The not talking part was a hit and miss, I love chatting with people but also, I didn’t have to pay attention to anyone I didn’t want to. I am easily distracted and as a cat, I could be as distracted as I wanted to be and that was definitely a plus. I just need to find a nice balance here somehow.
I did love the collar and leash too, but it did something weird to me. For a few times, Oliver led me to the sofa at the party and there were people I didn’t know. And he would go get something like water. Usually I have no problem being by myself anywhere, but for some reason (maybe because of the role and the collar), I felt very vulnerable being by myself. Not unlike a pet being left alone by its hooman, even for a little bit of time. I wouldn’t go as far as saying that I felt unsafe, cos logically I was very safe at the party. But I did feel something that was very much like being scared. I became incredibly restless, and I think at both times, I took my leash between my teeth and ran away. After all, I wasn’t a dog who would stay in place just cos I was told to. A cat shouldn’t obey, right? 😛
So there were two pretty brutal spankings by the sadistic cat sitter, and I also found out that not getting to curse out loud was definitely a minus. XD It might also hurt the feelings of the said sadist, cos even though the spankings were brutally lovely, my favorite activity was actually getting choked by him pulling on the collar hard. I asked him to do it so hard that I would pass out, and he obliged. It was after the second spanking and I was still standing and slightly leaning against a spanking net made with thick ropes. I never remember the second when the lights go out, I would just casually regard that I’m losing the grip of my hand on the ropes. This time I actually dreamed of something. And slowly, I regained consciousness and it was like someone turning the volume of the world back on gradually. That feeling is really hard to describe but I adore it so much. It felt like literally minutes for me but according to Oliver, it was maybe like 5 seconds. He let go of the collar right when my grip on the ropes went limp. And just for that purpose only, I would love to wear the collar more often.
All in all, I would love to be a cat more often at parties. But I do wonder whether I would get into that same mindset without the collar, or without the leash, and without a cat sitter. And also I should definitely not do the not-talking thing. XD One time is enough I think. Especially when everything I tried to emote to Oliver, his first guess would always be ‘you want cock?’. XD Sadistic perv. All jokes aside, I am very grateful to him that he would indulge me this one party to somehow regain my feline side and also explore new possibilities. I might have lost many things during my journey, but I’m confident I will find new wonderful things in the future. Until the, stay kinky! 😉