Kinky Dungeon

Sexy Sunday – Someone is back from vacay

Surprisingly busy on this Sunday so I’m going to keep this short, but I just gotta write something on this Sexy Sunday cos Sir Atticus is back from His vacay this week. 😛 I’m not saying that His kitten was a bad girl while He was gone, but still, after a quick calculation, the punishment I was going to get summed up in 240 strikes… how did that happen? *nervous laugh*

Well, this week I received 140 of the strikes gracefully. Semi-gracefully. Maybe. Potentially. I’m just going to leave this photo here of my butt two days after the punishment. Oh, and I didn’t use any camera filter, there was just a red shaded light on in the room, so with the flash, the color is all funky. Have a nice Sunday! 😛

Kinky Dungeon · Survival Guide

Kinky Sex Survival Guide – Level 4

Kuvahaun tulos haulle bdsm watersportsAh, my young padawan, you’re back and ready for more of my lessons. XD Level 4 is the last post of this mini-series, and in this I gathered everything super kinky. So what is kinky, at least in my opinion? For me, it had always been about the mental aspect of things, never the physical part. It doesn’t need to necessary hurt at all, but you would rarely see these things done in the vanilla bedroom because they can be hard to swallow (pun intended 😛 ). One word can sum up the theme of the following kinks: humiliation. It might not be the first thing that comes to mind when talking about sex, but it has its place in the kinky community, especially for those who are in the Dominant/submissive relationship. So if the things in this level 4 list turns you and your partner on, I welcome thee, to the colorful world of BDSM. 😉

In all seriousness though, methods of humiliation should never be taken lightly as they can give birth to some serious mental damage. If even the mere idea of any of these create stress or other worries, couples should talk it out. On one hand, these are clearly not for everything, not everyone gets aroused from humiliation, pain or adrenalin. On the other hand, kink can be one way to make you let go of unnecessary timidness and self-consciousness. If that’s the case, long and open conversations need to be had as to why these are a no-no. Is it because they don’t sound arousing, or is it because they sound scary for one reason or another. If yes, then what is that reason? And if after a thorough conversation and mutual consent and will to try these out, remember to start slow. Again, I have to remind the importance of the safeword. Never ignore the safeword, and stop immediately when the safeword is uttered. Or use a method my Dom used with me in the beginning when He was just getting to know me and my limits. He gagged me so He told me before we got down to it that He would keep checking on whether I was okay by holding my hand and squeezing it once. And if I was okay to keep going, I was to squeeze back gently. But if I wanted to stop, I was to squeeze back really hard. And I’m quite sure that if I would have hesitated on squeezing back right away, He would have paused long enough to really make sure I was okay. That’s the responsibility of Dominants and Tops and Masters, in addition to respecting the submissive/bottom and the safeword, they also have to know how to read their partner. But the latter will be built slowly and in time, so remember to be patient.

A little cautionary tale before we start with the list. If you’re read other posts here, you might know that I used to hate anal sex, and it’s mostly due to my ex who loves anal sex. In addition to being impatient with the foreplay and stretching that is required with anything anal, he would also ignore my urging for him to go slower. He was vanilla and so was I when I was still with him, we didn’t have any safeword procedure. But you would imagine that ‘go slower’ or even ‘stop’ would have been enough but no. The pain from anal wasn’t the worst thing, it was the strong sense of disrespect that I felt. His reasoning was that it felt too good to stop, and the fact that I probably wouldn’t give any anal anytime soon so he had to at least come. Yup. No wonder I was traumatized when it comes to anal, or vanilla sex in general. The first time I used my safeword with my Dom, seeing Him drop everything He was doing and tending to me and making sure that I was okay, it meant a lot to me. Because I would never feel unsure with Him, because I know for a fact that I am His priority even when I’m gagged and bound and He would never ignore my safeword just because it feels too good to stop. And because of that, He made me never want to stop, He made me take much more of everything, pain, pleasure, humiliation, than I ever imagined I can.

Alright, enough stories. Here comes the kinky list! 😉

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Weekly Obsessions

Weekly Obsessions, part 44 – Supergirl, Light Carnival and being forgetful

Another week had passed and here’s another weekly obsessions.

1. Foodporn Fever

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There’s a Chinese lunch restaurant near my office and just recently they began to serve breakfast buffet too. Breakfast is by far my favorite meal of the day and traditional Chinese breakfast is my ultimate comfort food and guilty pleasure. Why guilty pleasure? Because I’m supposed to be on a low carb diet and I should be avoiding everything that’s not whole grain or vegetable, and Chinese love their carbs. But it was Friday so I decided to treat myself. I went there and got a take-away (so I wouldn’t eat too much. I picked out a steamed pork bun, a steamed meat dumpling, two pan fried buns (because they are my favorite), a scallion egg pancake, some tofu spicy salad, two deep-fried wonton with sweet peanut filling and a small baked peanut bun. Okay, maybe I did take too much. After that ‘breakfast’, I was so freaking stuffed the whole day and even skipped lunch. My body was going crazy about all that oily carbs right in the morning. As good as Chinese breakfast is, I have no idea how Chinese in China could eat that every morning. I do realize that they are probably used to it, and they might not eat that large of a quantity in one seating, but still. The problem with me was that I didn’t necessarily feel full, just stuffed, like eating too much candies. No wonder my mom wonders how I don’t get hungry with just a smoothie as breakfast. 😛 I much rather have something full of protein and Vitamin C that would keep me full but not stuffed. 😛

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