On Fetlife, one of the biggest social website, like Facebook for kinky people, there’s one basic question you can answer on your profile, and that is how active of a whatever-you-are you are. The options are ‘just curious right now’, ‘curious and want to try’, ‘once in a while to spice things up’, ‘just in the bedroom’, ‘I live the lifestyle when I can’ and lastly ‘I live it 24/7’. Funny enough, right from the beginning, I already knew that my ideal Dominant/submissive relationship is going to be 24/7. Kinksters I’ve had contact with, many shy away from the 24/7 arrangement, most deemed it too demanding. It might be because the 24/7 I have in mind is slightly different than the norm? I’m not sure. The 24/7 D/s just means that my Dom never stops being my Dom, and there is no time of the day that I stop being His sub. It’s basically the same with the vanilla boyfriend-girlfriend relationships, there’s really no time off, right?
I’ve been asked, does that mean I’m calling Sir Atticus ‘Sir’ in every sentence and not look Him in the eyes ever when I’m with Him and does He get to tell me to do whatever whenever He feels like it? No, I don’t always call Him Sir, but when replying to an obvious command, then yes, I would address accordingly. And yes, I look Him in the eyes all the time, they are so blue and pretty that it’s hard to resist. But whenever there’s an energy shift, a power shift that I can practically feel on my skin, when He slips into His Dom-mode, eye-contact restriction is like breathing, it feels the most natural thing to do. And what comes to the whatever whenever thing, well, basically the answer is yes, so not choosing an asshole as your Dom might help in this one. The thing is, it’s very hard for me to say no, although I do have a bratty bone in me, so I do beg, negotiate, throw a tantrum and pout. Hardly ever any of those methods would work when His Domliness has set His mind of things, but luckily Sir Atticus is quite fair. He just likes to tease me a lot, and it doesn’t help me at all that my knee-jerk reflex is to believe whatever He says, thus making me a really easy target to tease.
Anyhoo, our 24/7 ‘arrangement’, well it’s not very arranged. We had never sat down to discuss the rules or restrictions or protocols, any structures we are in now just came into being in time, some right away, and some gradually. I don’t actually know any other couples in the 24/7 D/s relationship, except stories and blogs I read online, but I figured it would be fun to share how some features in our 24/7 D/s relationship. You know what’s coming, a list of course! Ten things about twenty-four seven! 😛