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Kinky Sex Survival Guide – Level 1

Finally! We are over with those ‘Ask a Kinky Girl’ Wednesday posts! ๐Ÿ˜€ Or at least until next time I’m too busy to plan anything. But since they were surprisingly well-received, I decided to write something else with good humor. ๐Ÿ™‚ After all, sex, kinky or otherwise is supposed to be fun. And my ‘Survival Guide’ series is a perfect choice for this week’s kinky Wednesday. It’s Valentine’s Day soon, and according to someย reliableย Internet source, while only 19 % of us are actually kinky, I don’t see why the good vanilla folk can’t dip their feet in the kinky pond time and again to spice it up. ๐Ÿ˜› So this kinky gal is here to help! I’m going to do my part to advocate for kinky sex and provide a survival guide for couples looking to get freaky in the bedroom. And what’s a better day to begin venturing to the dark side than the lovers’ holiday! ๐Ÿ˜€ To ensure that your first kinky trial is successful and less scary, I planned to write four levels of kinky stuff for you to try out. Of course, for the over-archivers and the impatient, I’m starting with level one. Just to be safe and so you won’t blame me if something goes wrong on your Valentine’s Day sexy times. ๐Ÿ˜› So kinky sex, level one! Ten things for you lovebirds to try it out! They are safe and require next to no equipment that you can’t find from your home already.

1. Blindfolds
Often praised as a Dominant’s best friend, this little piece of cloth can leave the wearer guessing what’s coming next. And the non-wearer can do whatever for however long. And by taking away the sight, the sense of touch, scent, sound will feel stronger. And yes, pleasure is going to feel a lot stronger when you’re blindfolded too. Blindfolds also help me be less aware of my own fault on my body, so I can focus on the crucial things, like whatever my partner is doing to my body.

2. Verbal bondage

Being tied up seem simple enough, but it challenges the trust of your partner on a whole different level. And sometimes it’s not about the trust, some of us just don’t feel comfortable being tied up with equipment, or even holding someone’s wrists with your hand can be counted as bondage. So for those new in this, just keep your enthusiasm in check and don’t whip out those handcuffs out just yet. Verbal bondage is also a thing, and when done right, it can be very sexy, and even for those hesitant about being actually tied up, just a command to keep their arms over their head or behind their backs is usually enough. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Kuvahaun tulos haulle hair pulling3. Hair-pulling

While hair-pulling can be used as a method of humiliation, I’m talking about the sensual and passionate kind here. Remember, always pull from the roots. Use the leverage to guide your partnerย head while kissing them, or grab a big handful while having some intense sex. You can even grab a handful during oral sex, but do not push and pull unless you are sure she/he is okay with it. ๐Ÿ™‚

4. Bare hand spanking

Kuvahaun tulos haulle bare hand spankingDoing some light spanking never hurts, there’s next to no technique to be learned. But since I’ve had experience about a guy messing up bare hand spanking, I’m just going give you the tips just in case. Start from light, and pay attention to the reaction before adding force. Relax your wrist, a bit like when you are playing badminton. Keep your fingers separated, it’s going to hurt less that way. If you want to back-hand a butt, remember that knuckles are going to hurt more, so lighter when you do that. And spanking while fucking someone from behind, well, let’s just say that it requires some level of attention on target practicing. ๐Ÿ˜›

5. No-sound rule

Kuvahaun tulos haulle sealed lipsJust like the verbal bondage, the no-talking rule is to get you ready for a physical gag that you might want to use next. This rule sure is less messy, less drooly and fairly easy to implement. Let me tell you boys a secret, a lot of women make sounds during sex just to please men, so taking that little task away from her, it’s actually way easier to concentrate on just feeling. I’m a very loud person during sex, especially when I’m climaxing, but when I’m ‘gathering’ the orgasm, I’m very very quiet, because I’m mostly holding my breath. Of course, if you ask me to make absolutely no sounds, it’s next to impossible. The no-sound rule can also mean no-open-mouth sounds. Any sounds of pleasure from sealed lips can be allowed. ๐Ÿ™‚

Kuvahaun tulos haulle sensual play6. Sensual play
So what you do to your partner when he or she is lying naked on the bed, blindfolded and told to keep their hands over their heads? Time to do some sensual play. And yes, if you happen to have a feather on hand, you can use that. Concentrate on the whole body, not just the genitals or the chest area. Blow some cool air, breathe out some warm air and see when goosebumps rise up. Take in the scents, let your tongue drag along the skin, lightly score places with your teeth. You can also utilize an ice-cube. Touch the naked flesh with your fingertips, barely connecting, brush the hair on the body gently. Learn every inch of his/her body, learn the weak spots, the ticklish spots and the pleasure points. After all, it is your favorite playground, right? ๐Ÿ˜›

Kuvahaun tulos haulle ravish her7. Light biting
I for one love being bitten. But do not do it hard at first if you’re not sure whether the other person likes it. Places like the neck, shoulders and bottom are quite safe to bite a bit harder, if you’re not scared to leave a mark, but you can start with just nibbling. You know, covering your teeth with your lips and nibble. Places like the nipples, breasts, the back of arms, the waist and the inner thighs, these are sensitive spots. Sometimes even feeling sharp teeth on these spots might be too intense so be careful. And any part of genitals, male or female, just keep your teeth away.

Kuvahaun tulos haulle suede flogger8. Suede floggers, small
For sensual play and light spanking, small suede floggers can come in handy. Their soft and short tresses are perfect for dragging all over the body, especially the sensitive genital areas. And because they are short, you can’t create much damage even if you are an inexperienced wielder. Of course, you can make this hurt a lot on sensitive areas like the pussy, the balls or the breasts, but about that level of spanking, maybe later. ๐Ÿ˜›

9. Vibrator

Kuvahaun tulos haulle magic wand vibratorAh, don’t be afraid to implement some proper sex toys in the bedroom, and vibrators can be very pleasurable for both men and women. If you don’t feel comfortable having a dildo-like vibrator, then invest on the magic wand (my recommendation) or the cheap alternative, the vibrating bullet/egg. And if your partner had never experienced an orgasm through vibrators, you are going to become their hero. ๐Ÿ˜› You can thank me later. Oh and no one is stopping you keeping a vibrator in place during sex either. Trust me, it’s going to be fun for both of you. ๐Ÿ˜‰

10. Ravish her/him!

And finally, have your way with him/her. Rapid fire kisses, holding tight, demanding touches all over the body, everyone wants to feel wanted and desired with theย intensity that burns. Grab the back of the head when kissing hard on the mouth, nibble your way down the neck and shoulder, let your hands wander, squeezing and grabbing. Don’t bother taking the clothes off, just move it out of the way, or stick your hand/other parts beneath clothing. Show your partner how much you desire him/her with the action that would leave both of you breathless.

Here there were, ten things to spice up your sex life with a pinch of kinkiness. As for level two things, tune in next week! ๐Ÿ˜› Until then, stay kinky! ๐Ÿ˜‰

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